A survivor‑centered domestic violence newsletter for understanding, naming, and recovering from abusive relationships
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This newsletter is written for survivors, supporters, and professionals who want clear, compassionate insight into domestic violence — including emotional abuse, coercive control, psychological manipulation, and recovery after leaving.
It is created by The Narcissist Apocalypse, a long‑running podcast featuring survivor stories and expert‑informed discussions about abusive relationship dynamics.
What makes this domestic violence newsletter different
Many domestic violence newsletters focus on statistics, headlines, or crisis moments. This one focuses on recognition, language, and recovery.
Each edition is designed to:
- Help readers understand abuse that isn’t always physical
- Put words to experiences survivors often struggle to explain
- Reduce shame, confusion, and self‑blame
- Offer optional support — never pressure or urgency
The tone is calm, contained, and trauma‑aware. Nothing in this newsletter requires you to “take action” before you’re ready.
Who this newsletter is for
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- Are in, leaving, or recovering from an abusive relationship
- Experienced emotional abuse, manipulation, or control
- Struggle to name what happened, even after leaving
- Support someone who has experienced domestic violence
- Work in advocacy, therapy, education, or survivor support
You do not need to identify with the word “victim” to find this useful.
What you’ll receive
Each edition of this domestic violence newsletter follows a consistent “5 Things” format, designed to reduce overwhelm and help readers process difficult material safely and at their own pace.
1. One thing this episode was really about
A short reflection that names the core emotional or relational truth beneath the story — not a summary, but what mattered most.
2. One pattern that often goes unnoticed
A quiet dynamic many survivors recognize only in hindsight, explained gently and without judgment.
3. One quiet question (no need to answer it)
A single, optional question meant to sit with you — not something to fix or resolve, just something to notice.
4. One optional support
A small support you can take or leave: a grounding idea, a boundary reminder, or a compassionate reframe.
5. One related resource
A carefully chosen article, episode, or external resource for those who want to go a little deeper.
Most issues can be read in just a few minutes. You are never expected to read everything or engage with every resource.
Topics covered in the newsletter
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- Emotional abuse and psychological abuse
- Coercive control and subtle domination
- Narcissistic abuse and manipulative relationship dynamics
- Gaslighting and erosion of self‑trust
- Why abuse doesn’t always look abusive
- Why leaving is complex and nonlinear
- Recovery, identity rebuilding, and boundaries after abuse
All topics are discussed without graphic detail and with survivor safety in mind.
Based on real survivor stories
The newsletter is closely connected to The Narcissist Apocalypse podcast, which features anonymous survivor interviews from people who have lived through domestic violence and coercive relationships.
These stories help readers:
- Recognize patterns they couldn’t previously name
- Feel less alone in their experience
- Understand abuse as a process, not a failure
No story is shared for shock value. The goal is understanding.
A note on safety and pacing
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- Non‑triggering whenever possible
- Free of deadlines, demands, or pressure
- Respectful of where you are right now
You will never be told what you “should” do.
You are always free to unsubscribe.
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About the creator
The newsletter is written by Brandon Chadwick, creator and host of Narcissist Apocalypse, a podcast dedicated to understanding abusive relationship dynamics through survivor voices.
The work is informed by:
- Survivor testimony
- Years of listener feedback
This is not clinical advice or crisis counseling — it is education, reflection, and support.
Frequently asked questions
Is this newsletter only about physical domestic violence?
No. While physical violence is discussed when relevant, the newsletter focuses heavily on emotional abuse, coercive control, and psychological dynamics — forms of domestic violence that are often overlooked.
Is this newsletter safe to read while still in a relationship?
Many readers choose to read privately and quietly. You are encouraged to prioritize your safety and access the content in a way that feels safest for you.
Is this a replacement for professional help?
No. This newsletter is educational and supportive but does not replace therapy, advocacy services, or emergency support.
Final note
Domestic violence often becomes clear only after it has already caused harm. This newsletter exists to help make sense of what happened — gently, slowly, and without judgment.
You don’t have to read every issue. You don’t have to do anything with what you read.
Take what helps. Leave the rest.