When Responsibility Turns Into Over-Functioning | Lessons From Justin’s Story
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we step back from Justin’s survivor story to examine how responsibility can slowly turn into over-functioning. Justin believed he was part of a team, but over time stability depended increasingly on him alone. We explore how effort can replace evaluation, why capable partners often stay longer in unstable dynamics, and how clarity begins when someone stops managing the system and starts questioning it.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we step back from Justin’s survivor story and examine the pattern beneath it. Justin believed in partnership. He leaned into responsibility, tried to stabilize tension, and carried the weight of keeping everything together. Over time, those strengths slowly shifted into over-functioning — where effort replaced evaluation, and stability depended increasingly on him alone.
In this episode, we explore:
- how rapid commitment and shared responsibility can crowd out clarity
- why capable, dependable partners often stay longer in unstable dynamics
- how accusations and instability condition self-monitoring
- the illusion of control in relationships
- and how over-functioning can mask structural imbalance
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