Understanding Coercive Control Episodes

Brandon discusses the psychology abusers use to normalize toxic behaviors. Topics discussed in this episode are: gaslighting, religion, cultural norms, social influence, minimizing, blame-shifting, rationalizations, cognitive dissonance, gender roles, patriarchal systems, conditioning, generational trauma, shame, dissociation, and much more. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To buy the book Out of th...

Brandon discusses how victim-playing abusers use empathy-based guilt to control, manipulate, avoid taking responsibility, get attention, and abuse throughout every stage of an abusive relationship. This episode discusses idealization, devaluation, post separation abuse, gaslighting, minimization, blame shifting, hoovering, trauma, isolation, jealousy, self defense, smear campaigns, suicide threats, self harm, and much more. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode mentions suicide threats and self h...

Porsha's father was a cerebral narcissist who cared more about work/appearances than anyone or anything. As the youngest of 3 siblings, Porsha grew up as the lost child in her family's abusive dysfunction, enduring physical abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, enmeshment, and covert incest. It's a story of the scapegoat, golden child, lost child, addiction, anxiety, CPTSD, neglect, enmeshment, covert incest, physical abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, enabling, enmeshment, neglect, people pleasin...

Brandon talks with Kaytee Gillis (LCSW) about recognizing smear campaigns, common tactics of smear campaigns, what smear campaigns look like to the outside world, smear campaign rules of engagement, and communication techniques. Kaytee's website can be found by, clicking here. Kaytee's book 'Invisible Bruises' can be purchased by, clicking here. Kaytee's book 'It's Not High Conflict, It's Post Separation Abuse' can be purchased by, clicking here. Kaytee's Instagram can be found by, clicking ...

On this episode on Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses the 5 archetypes of people pleasing and fawning in abusive relationships. Plus he talks about 3 origins of people pleasing, codependency, systemic oppression, stigma, and much more.

Brandon discusses the tools a coercive narcissistic abuser uses to gain power and control over their victims. He digs deep into isolation, monitoring, manipulation tactics, deprivation, freedom, micromanaging, rule setting, financial abuse, regulating sex, fear, threats, intimidation, physical aggression, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses sexual and physical abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at nar...

Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's 10 types of abusers & the role of narcissistic personality disorder. Plus they discuss, minimization, gaslighting, physical abuse, control, power, triangulation, threats, intimidation, guilt, invalidation, kernels of truth, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - We discuss physical abuse and suicide in this episode. *** Lundy Bancroft's book 'Why Does He Do That?' can be purchased by clicking here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please...

Brandon discusses the top 5 signs of isolation, how isolation is used to abuse you, common phrases used to isolate you, creating dependency, manipulation tactics, isolation as a form of punishment, identity erosion, and the difficulty in leaving. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www...

Mia met her husband as a teenager. Their relationship was a dream come true. But after the birth of their first child, everything about her husband changed. Mia was relegated to secondary supply and became the scapegoat of the family. Children as 'proxies' began to run rampant behind the scenes, as Mia's abusive husband was sowing the seeds of doubt amongst everyone. And as time went on, the psychological abuse only intensified until Mia's husband lost complete control. It's a story of physical...

Lennon met her future husband at a rooftop bar. He was intelligent, driven, strong, and seemingly steady. However, as soon as their relationship became romantic, controlling behavior emerged. And once they were married, the coercive control ramped up, leaving Lennon and her kids in a financially abusive prison. It's a story of sexual coercion, people pleasing, trust building, guilt trips, nitpicking, put downs, blaming, threats, intimidation, what love isn’t, gaslighting, self gaslighting, esca...

On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses validation, the different types of verbal/non-verbal invalidation used by narcissistic abusers, and the different types of invalidating families.

On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon talks with Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola (DSW, LCSW, Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor) about coercive control, authoritarian parents, Disney, dad's, the Neurosequential Model,

On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses all things empathy. How the narcissist uses cognitive empathy and your own empathy against you. Plus he helps you see under the narcissists cognitive empathy mask during the love bombing stag

Brandon discusses Narcissist Apocalypse's 25 Basic Relationship Human Rights to help empower abuse victims/survivors. A big thank you to Dr, Evan Stark (Coercive Control Expert, Forensic Psychologist, Author) for encouraging Narcissist Apocalypse to grow in a direction that's not just validating the victim/survivor experience, but to create empowerment and movement for them to leave. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapoc...

Brandon discusses the top 10 ways a narcissistic abuser will confuse you into thinking you’re the narcissist. This episode isn't just about the crazy making, but also about discerning the truth from the lies you've been told. The silent treatment vs. taking time to yourself. The hero/saviour conundrum. Everyone loves them, it must be me. Abuse vs. self defense. Snooping. Accusations. Shame. Guilt. Doubt. Gaslighting. And much more. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please...

Brandon talks with Vienna Guest about the top 15 ways to discern a narcissistic abuse victim from the narcissist. It can be very confusing for an attorney, judge, mutual friends etc. to know which one of the two people in a couple is the actual abuser, so we created a list for you to look at as a whole, or as a pattern. This list can also help you when entering a new relationship, by listening to the language that's being used as well. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, pl...

Brandon talks with Evan Stark (Forensic Social Worker & Author) about coercive control, domestic violence, women's rights, invisible threats, child abuse, and the law. Evan Stark has impacted your life or the life of someone you know, you just don't know it. Come listen to him talk. You'll be a better person for it. *** TRIGGER WARNING - We discuss physical violence, murder, and sexual assault throughout this episode. Sometimes there are graphic descriptions. *** If you want to be a guest on ou...

Brandon talks about the manipulation tactics an abuser uses to gain control, isolate you, and erode your sense of self. Plus they discuss, triangulation, threats, physical abuse, intimidation, flying monkeys, fear, obligation, guilt, the divide & conquer technique, arguments, word salad, sleep deprivation, minimization, justification, reasoning, gaslighting, accusations, cheating, projection, blame shifting, beliefs, nitpicking, stonewalling, and much more. If you want to be a guest on our surv...

Brandon talks with Taly Kadoch (LPC) about attachment styles, trauma bonding, love, addiction, and abuse. Plus they discuss healing the the trauma bond and letting go. Book a session with Taly by clicking here. Taly's email is kadochtaly@gmail.com If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor CREDIT KARMA. Check your credit score on Credit Karma for free! Plus Credit Karma can find you ...

Brandon talks with Darlene Lancer (LMFT) about the personality types that attract a narcissist & if a narcissist is capable of love. Plus they discuss codependency, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, narcissist types, getting your needs met, regaining your sense of self after abuse, and much more. *** Please excuse the chimes in the background. It wasn't picked up until much later.*** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissi...

Brandon talks with Rayna Guest about the characteristics of a controlling personality, the signs of a possessive partner, and types of controlling behavior. Rayna also updates us on her life since her appearance on the survivor story podcast and tells a story about running into her abusive ex. You can listen to Rayna's story by clicking here. Thank you to our sponsor BOMBAS. Go to Bombas.com/nap and get 20% off your purchase of socks, underwear, and t-shirts. Bombas donates an item to a homele...

Brandon talks with Dr. Amelia Kelley (trauma informed therapist & author) about the overlapping behaviors of ADHD & Narcissism and how to recognize where Narcissistic Abuse begins. Plus they discuss, control, intentions, can't vs. won't, doing the work, comorbidity, weaponizing mental health issues, and much more. Dr Amelia Kelley's website is https://www.ameliakelley.com/ and you can purchase her book 'What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship' by clicking here. ...

Brandon talks with Dr. Kenneth Adams about the signs of enmeshment, emotional incest, and your partner's red flag dysfunctional family dynamics.

Brandon talks with Erika Guest (Behavioral Therapist) about the behavior shaping techniques used by abusive narcissists to condition their victims for long-term abuse. Using clips from the survivor series episodes, Erika and Brandon break down the techniques and how to recognize when the abusive narcissist is using them against you. Thank you to our sponsor BOMBAS. Go to Bombas.com/nap and get 20% off your purchase of socks, underwear, and t-shirts. Bombas donates an item to a homeless shelter ...